The Quiet Piety of Dora

24 05 2012

The Sanctuary of Our Lady of Mentorella, which Dora liked to visit.

 

Amaia Mintegui met Dora in Rome, and lived with her until her death She recalls that Dora “never made a show of her piety, but…she prayed the different parts of the Holy Rosary every day, often remaining for a long time on her knees before the Tabernacle. She had great devotion to the Blessed Virgin and she frequently asked others to accompany her on pilgrimages to Marian shrines in and near Rome.”

“She appeared very recollected when she received Holy Communion and when making a thanksgiving after Mass…. Many times she mentioned the great urgency she felt to pray for specific intentions which had been entrusted to her.”





Time for Others

21 04 2012

Maria Carmen Cominges first met Dora in Rome in June of 1957. They worked together from 1965 until March of 1996.

“If there is a virtue which especially characterized Dora, it was diligence.She used her time very well. I can still hear her saying, ‘Since I have a few minutes, I am going to use them to do this or that.’ She was heroic right up until the end. She would always ask to be given more work, and when she began to lose some of her physical abilities—her sight, for example—she did simpler things, like darning socks or answering the telephone.

Dora always prayed for the Pope

She loved people in both a human and a supernatural way. She gave them her time:forming and teaching them professionally, and giving them the benefit of her experience. Occasionally she got angry and scolded—only when someone was careless or lazy at work—but her anger never lasted long, and people never felt hurt. I never knew her to be offended by anyone, or to bear a grudge.

She loved the Pope very much—whoever he was—and she always prayed for him and for the bishops. I remember how excited she was in December of 1978 to attend the Holy Mass celebrated by John Paul II and to receive Holy Communion from his hands.

She tried not to call attention to herself and to pass unnoticed, and one time Saint Josemaria pointed this out to us. It was March 24, 1974. The founder of Opus Dei was visiting Albarosa for the first time, a Center of Opus Dei which had just opened in Grottarossa, near Rome. All of us who lived in Albarosa had gathered together in order to be with him, and at one point he noticed that Dora was missing. He asked us, ‘Where is that daughter of mine who always wants to remain hidden?’ Saint Josemaria took advantage of her momentary absence to praise her very affectionately.

Maria Carmen Cominges

Valencia, Spain





A woman all of a piece

14 03 2012

Conchita del Morral

Conchita del Moral first met Dora in Rome in 1957, and they worked together for more than thirty years.

“I thank God that I was able to spend years with Saint Josemaria, with Father Alvaro del Portillo, and with Dora. She was the first woman to ask admission to the Work with the conscious intention of dedicating herself to the domestic care of the Centers of the Work, and she carried out this work with great supernatural vision and professionalism. I was lucky to have lived in Rome with Dora for 32 years. I learned from her how to do my work well and for the love of God, how to take care of the little things. More than anything else, I was struck by her piety, along with her joy and her concern for others.

Dora was a woman ‘all of a piece.’ She never shrank from any task; when there was a job to do that was more difficult or just more disagreeable, she was always first in line, without making a big deal out of it. Because she was older than me, I would say to her, ‘Dora, I’ll do it.’ Right away she would answer, ‘I don’t think it is in any way beneath my dignity,’ and she would do it.

She lived only for others

“Thank you, Dora, for your faithfulness to the spirit of St. Josemaria, and for all the ways in which you have taught me how to be happy. Thank you for your patience with us, the younger ones who arrived knowing how to do hardly anything, and thank you for knowing how to pass unnoticed. She, who was the very first numerary assistant in Opus Dei, always wanted to pass unnoticed. She lived only for the Work and in order to serve the others. I remember her gentle way of teaching and her courageous way of correcting, always with such love that you couldn’t be hurt.

Dora del Hoyo

How she was

Dora was a woman of few words, but of great deeds; she got you out of all your predicaments. She was very professional with regard to the Administration of the Center; she was up to date on the latest products available, the latest innovations, and the best way of taking advantage of them for the sake of pleasing the others. She never missed an opportunity to learn; she had put into practice what Saint Josemaria so often said: ‘The professional vocation is a part of the divine vocation.’

“I will give you one little example of how she wanted to pass unnoticed. She was a very cultured person, and one day she surprised me by saying, ‘Conchita, so many people write to me and you write so well, would you be willing to answer my mail?’ I was taken aback, because Dora never asked for favors—she was always the one doing the favors. I told her, ‘Fine, but then they will keep those letters as being relics of the first numerary assistant, and they will be false relics.’ I can see it now, the way her face changed and she told me, ‘Don’t speak foolishness—who would think such a thing!’ And so we did it, and I realized that even in this she didn’t want to be noticed.

“I can sum up her life in a few words: May God alone shine forth. How well she learned this lesson of the Founder. Now that she is in heaven, I constantly go to her and she does me thousands of favors. Sometimes I can picture the look she would give me when I would ask her for something. And then I say out loud, ‘Dora, I can’t find my glasses.’ And immediately they appear—I always have her at my side. Thank you, Dora.”

Conchita del Moral Herranz

Torreciudad Spain





Dora, the pumpkins, and the cabello de angel

19 01 2012

Note: “Cabello de angel” (Angel’s Hair) is a sweet pumpkin confection used to fill traditional Spanish pastries called “ensaimadas.”

Isabel Garcia Martin knew Dora, and saw her at work and in ordinary daily life, from 1991 until January 10, 2004 when she went to Heaven.

“When I saw the photograph that illustrates this blog, I remembered Dora in the garden in the month of August, at the age of 89, watering the pumpkins she would use to make the last cabello de angel of her life, to fill the ensaimadas. “If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing well,” she would always say–and so she collected the seeds, planted them, and took care of the seedlings. Finally, she filled jars and jars with her cabello de angel for the many people who would enjoy  this treat, made with the love of a grandmother. She made marmalade and candy. She enjoyed anything that had to do with spreading the warmth of hearth and home. She didn’t talk about this–she just did it, and that was enough.

“She loved life and delighted in carrying out the familiar, lovable traditions of each holiday, and she spared herself no work in this regard. She created the extraordinary by doing ordinary things with perfection: the peace which comes from living the virtue of order, from finding everything in its proper place, a simple but well prepared meal, and a spotless table set with good taste and simplicity. She was always working but she did so calmly, seeking to serve the others, taking care of the clothing, the garden, all the details of the meals, the cleaning, making sure that “the cold things were cold and the hot things were hot,” as she liked to repeat, doing all of the things which she had learned from Saint Josemaria himself, in order to be a sower of peace and joy.

“In life we get to know a lot of people, and we value and remember them. But there are some people who are unforgettable because, doing things that no one notices and without calling attention to themselves, they make a deep impression on us. We ask ourselves what it is about them…and we begin to discover the heroes of the world, the ones who know how to make us happy in little things, the saints, who show us the wonder of creation, the goodness of the world, the importance of caring for others, one by one, cheerfully, enjoying what they are doing.

“I was reading a novel recently and I came upon a passage which immediately made me think of Dora. The author was writing about a Hungarian immigrant working for a lady in North America at the beginning of the twentieth century. ‘They liked to make delicious and plentiful meals, and see the others enjoy them; they liked to prepare soft, clean beds and see the children sleeping in them…both of them had in their depths a kind of overflowing joy, a pleasure in life which was delicate but invigorating.’

“Dora, following the example of the Blessed Virgin, took care of  the others like a mother or an older sister and sought their good in the beauty of the work she carried out. In those details, apparently unimportant, she demonstrated her love for God and for the transcendent life to which He had called her.”

Isabel García Martín
Rome (Italy)